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Sunday, August 23rd, 2009
1:47 pm
Anyone still active here?

I'm curious about the gay poly life... ;)

Current Mood: curious
Thursday, June 18th, 2009
6:26 am
Any News?
It seems no one has been on this site in a year. Is there some new site people intrested in this site must go?

Monday, February 18th, 2008
10:01 pm
FPR Registration Ending soon!

General Registration for Florida Poly Retreat 2008 will be ending on March 15, 2008. If you wish to Register on a Payment Plan, you've got to get those Registrations in today, and have them paid off by February 28, 2008.

If you've already Registered with a Payment Plan, get that money in by Paypal or check to Registration, c/o Florida Poly Retreat, 14324 SE 59th Court, Summerfield, FL 34491.  You can download a Registration form at http://www.floridapolyretreat.com/mail-in.pdf .

If you're interested in attending and staying onsite and/or joining us for meals - please register soon, as Pre-paid Registration using Paypal will close on March 15, 2008! 

Sunday, February 10th, 2008
12:33 pm
Ethical Slut - Monogamy Myths
I am now reading the Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Catherine Liszt

It's not because I am currently my old polyamorus self. In fact I am more a monk than ever and I fear STDs more than I ever have. I think the latter is more about fears of getting "weaker" with aging and the former about not wanting to love or sex anyone without soul. But I do notice these fears narrowing my liberal views about sex and love.

I have always thought that sexual intimacy and love, if done right and ethically can be shared with as many people as one wants; as long as there are no "games" and addictions. I have always thought of jealousy and possessiveness as immature and childish urges: though natural. I think it is pathological to want to control a partner or "make them change" or "improve them". I've had those kind of monogamous relationships and basically they taught me that monogamy can be, in some cases, a form of emotional prison. Though, not enough to close me to the idea of a primary life partner.

So now I found in these authors, one bisexual woman and one lesbian woman a kinship with these central ideas. I'm not saying I agree entirely with all they have to say - I think sexual addiction and the spread of disease are monumental problems that pretty much trump their notion of being a "guide to INFINITE sexual possibilities" but overall, I can RELATE to where they are coming from.

For example: here are some myths they put out in chapter 3 with which I totally agree [including my comments]. If you want their explanations, pick up the book:
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Tuesday, February 5th, 2008
8:25 pm
FPR 2008 Coming Up Soon!

 Don't forget, the Florida Poly Retreat is coming up March 27-30!  We have a great retreat planned.  Anita Wagner is our keynote speaker (check her out at http://www.practicalpolyamory.com), and we have some awesome presentations scheduled on things like:

Tuesday, January 8th, 2008
1:13 pm
FPR 2008

The Florida Poly Retreat (FPR) is a regional level polyamory retreat/conference started in 2003 organized by the polyamory communities of Florida.   This year, FPR will be held on March 27-30. 

Friday, November 16th, 2007
12:16 pm
Okay, This is Probably Pretty Basic Stuff, But I Gotta Know...
Often people ask me questions about things I know a lot about, and sometimes I have to smile at how very basic and common-sense the questions are. But I help whenever I can. I’ll bet this is the kind of place where I can do the same thing. My story and my question behind this cut...Collapse )
Tuesday, March 27th, 2007
9:34 am
A Good Step on the Jealousy Path
I “let” my husband have sex with another man last night and I am doing pretty damned well with it. Don't get me wrong, I think I should.

Especially since I want to sleep with other men, I damned well better be okay with it!

Now this is a bit long and you may define it as rambling, but I had a lot on my mind and a lot to express. If you’re interested, I’d love some thoughts and input. But PLEASE, if you are one of those people who attack those with a different view point, don’t bother, okay? I’ve gotten lots of wonderful advise and support and opinions that have helped me grow. I don’t mind “Fathers” and “Mothers” who point out “misguided” or immature thinking. This is all my path and I am NOT attacking anyone with a different viewpoint or a different path!
Monday, November 13th, 2006
12:17 am
Poly Project
I have mentioned my polyamory project on my personal LJ a few times but instead of being able to meet with all the people who have volunteered to be interviewed, I have created an online survey. This means strangers can fill it out, too! It eases the process for me, since it will track the data anonymously, and I think it will be easier on those who wish to participate because it is anonymous and doesn't have to be done in person. I hope that my questions are useful and inoffensive. Please do not answer any that cross your boundaries, of course. Also, feel free to hand this around to anyone who is poly friendly- or not, I suppose, as their input is also valuable when painting a picture of the discrimination that polyamorous people face.

Just to make the purpose of this clear: I am going to be doing a presentation in my Culture and Identity class on 12/12 to a room full of future psychotherapists, and I am hoping that I can increase their awareness and support for the poly community in receiving services and advocacy.

Click here to take the survey. Thank you!

Note: there are 2 pages, the next button is at the bottom. the second section is really the more important one (meant for non-poly people too), but does take more time and is more personal. many thanks!

I'm noticing that many people are skipping the essay questions. is it just too much? should i try and make them multiple choice somehow? any ideas?
Friday, July 21st, 2006
8:01 am
Hey there,
New Member, Finnegan here. Very curious about this community. I have some pretty happy stories to tell about this topic. Have two lovers who are also very friendly with each other--(just friends, though I think there are possibilities there, too)One is from Holland and we have been together 2years, the other is from Australia and we've been together 6 years. They are all for me finding more lovers as well, and am in the way of looking for lover from France...

Feel free to post me, am friendly to all

F i n n e g a n
Sunday, June 11th, 2006
9:22 pm
Hi, come and join a brand-new homo/bi friendly community: happy_gay_life

This is a community dedicated to building a positive homo/bi image by sharing joyful and uplifting experiences of being homo/bi.

Ever wonder why there are so few homo/bi stories/movies with happy endings? I did.

I figure out that it has to come from us. We've got to count our blessings and share these lovely moments with each other: the special moments that bring smiles to our faces, that make our hearts sing, that tickle us, that move us to tears of joy ... on a daily basis.

Every time you share a line of joy, you're contributing to building a positive homo/bi image.

Come! Join us and have some fun!
Sunday, January 29th, 2006
3:45 pm
Queer Sex Weekly, My New Podcast... check it out at iTunes!
Greetings and Salutations!

I apologize if it's really bad form to cross post. People always seem to apologize for that, so I guess is must be some what of a no-no in blogging. However, the communities I'm cross posting to all seem pretty germane to what I wanted to share in this post. However, if it does piss off or annoy any of you, I'm sorry about that! Mea culpa. Now, let's go to that generous, loving, forgiving place deep inside... Breathe... breathe... Okay, I'm sure we're all better, right?

So, hey, I wanted introduce my brand-spanking-new podcast, qsw. I just posted the inaugural episode, and I'm very, very psyched about it. Basically, it's a podcast about something near and dear my heart, and I'm thinking probably pretty near and dear to many of you out there, namely, Queer Sex! And I'm talking about queer sex in all is wide-ranging, delicious diversity. From vanilla fags and monogamist folks, to poly queers and leather daddys (and mammas), from porn stars to sex workers to button-down corporate queers.

I hope it will be a sex-positive, kink-affirming, poly-supportive show that explores queer sex from all different kinds of angles, in most inclusive way possible. I believe almost everything intersects our sexual selves in one way or another. From the obvious connections like sexual health topics such as condom use and negotiated safety agreements, to how we come out (as gay, or as kinky, or as poly, etc.) to family/friends from outside our scene. From how race, class, size, age, sex and gender-expression all color our experience of sexuality, to how we craft on our individualized concept of eroticism. I hope the conversations that shape the content of the show will touch on things like body-image, internalized homophobia and sex-phobia, the facinating intersections between spirituality and queer sex -- just to name a few areas that would be cool to explore.

Most of all, I hope the show will be shaped by men and women who choose to join in on the conversation. To borrow a phrase, there are surely 1001 queer stories in the naked city. Most of them damn sexy, if you look close enough. So let's get talking! Swing by my corner of the podcasting universe and check out Queer Sex Weekly. Hope to see you there!


Current Mood: excited
Thursday, August 11th, 2005
4:49 pm
does anyone know a gay poly community in buffalo new york?

Current Mood: amused
Wednesday, August 10th, 2005
2:13 pm
Can Anyone Recommend...
Can anyone recommend books on polyamory? I have The Ethical Slut, but I would like something else as well...

...I do much better when I process stuff and books help me a lot!

Saturday, August 6th, 2005
4:07 am
R and I Communicate!!!!!!!!
To my surprise and happiness, “R” brought “J” up last night.

I had decided to not pursue “J” in anyway and to let “R” have that moment. I realized that a piece of advise I got was very possibly correct (damnit), that me wanting “J” was more related to jealousy issues or especially ego issues rather than wanting to share an experience with “R.”

And to my surprise and happiness, "R," the man who finds it SO hard to communicate, opened the communications door last night! opened the communications door last night!
Friday, August 5th, 2005
12:43 am
Confused Ramblings...
Interesting day...

...spent a long time thinking and taking alone time last night...

It is a big step my lover and I have taken in the last few days (which a lot of you have read about Here and Here ) and I am not sure what to think. SO many mixed emotions. You know?

I have let my lover play with another man, all on his own, and well, he had a f*cking wonderful time and has been in a really good mood. **shakes head** And it was sex with a man besides me that has put him in this wonderful mood... Or helped.

I have such horrible terrible baggage with my ex and all his cheating and this new direction is making me not only face that stuff, but downright embrace it...

The first five years I was with my ex, "D," it was amazing. I was sooooo in love. And I thought he was too. I now suspect he may have even cheated on my on our honeymoon in New Orleans.

See, "D" and I played together, but only together. No separate f*cking (or so I thought, of course). And then I started getting really friendly with this black straight man at work. Very handsome. I am RARELY attracted to black men, but I was this guy, and sheltered little white boy, I wondered what it would be like to have sex with an African American.

And he was flirting like crazy. I thought he was straight, he said he was, but DAMN. He would even show me his read more…
Wednesday, August 3rd, 2005
7:05 am
An Update...
Thank you all yesterday for all your tons of wonderful and loving advise... My posting was very very long and I appreciate all those who read the huge thing AND commented...and some of the comments were quite long and quite thought-out as well. That meant more that you can know... Thanks

For those who are interested... (I Know I Want to Remember All This Later) ...this is what happened and what I went through next...

It certainly isn't necessary for you to read the equally long missive, but just in case...

Thank you all again!
Monday, August 1st, 2005
10:08 pm
On Open Relationshps....
Hey...Hope this is okay to post here...

I haven’t posted again in quite a awhile…life has been interesting and I am growing. So is my lover… When I have posted it has mostly been about poly-fi… I find that there are some developments that I never expected from a different direction.

First: I am cross-posting this and I hope it doesn't upset anyone.

Second: So often when I post here I get jumped on like crazy and no one addresses what I was writing/asking about... I will somehow offend someone by the way I phrase my posting and it is never my intention. **sigh**

A major reason why I so rarely post. It is obvious to me that I am not the only one in the world with baggage. Those people who jump my case so bad have baggage as well or they would just skip right to answering my questions or addressing my concerns instead of attacking me for phrasing a sentence in a way that personally offended them for some reason...

Big intro? Sorry... I really need some advice bad... SHIT! There is so much to say and I don’t want to write a novel or no one is going to read all this…Read more...Collapse )

I think the most important thing is that the people in a relationship agree to an arrangement and stick to it. It can change, but all people involved must agree to the changes. That is not what happened. Read more...Collapse )

How do you play outside the relationship without forming to deep an attachment?? Or in my case, how do I get over the blinding fear that if I allow “R” to play as well, that HE won’t find someone new? He is even more emotional than I am (if that is fucking possible). He gets just as emotionally attached to things and places and people as I do…

How do I get over the fear that “R” won’t do what my ex did? Read more...Collapse )

Did I use the word “jealous?” Yes, I did! I hear all the time that couple have NO jealousy and I just need to cast mine off. That jealousy is silly. Well, hell! Jealousy is a very basic emotion! It is totally normal! It is instinctual! Dogs and cats and even fish in one’s aquarium feel jealousy!!! How in the blue blazing f*ck do I “just” cast off jealousy? Especially in my case???Read more...Collapse )

Okay… TONIGHT…Read more...Collapse )
Monday, July 25th, 2005
6:03 pm
New member
Hello all!
Quick question. What do we consider polyamory? Is it strictly for those in multiple partner realtionships, or doe sit apply to those who have open realtionships, or involve other people into their intimate lives (sexually and emotionally)? Just curious as to what everybody thinks.
Personally my husband and I have a somewhat open realtionship. We invite others to join in on our intimate moments, but also like adding new friends as well as play partners. I think it happens to be a form of polyamory, but not sure. I suppose it is up to each individual to define what it means to them.
Anywho, hope to chat with you all later.

Current Mood: curious
Friday, June 10th, 2005
2:31 pm
Chat NE1?? IM me...
who else here is on Gay CamPartyUSA? if so goto my profile and IM me, im bored as hell!!
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